I’m a bride-to-be and in exactly 7 weeks I’ll fly home to South Africa to tie the knot. You’ll be forgiven for thinking that I’m turning into a bride-zilla as I am in fact organising my entire wedding all the way from Japan. You couldn’t be more wrong. Even though there are still a few loose ends, I feel rather calm and in control, but please bare with me as I let you in on this little secret: I’m having a major dilemma with regards to photography!
Just to clarify, I have booked an amazing professional photographer. But what has been eating at me is the notion of having an unplugged wedding. You don’t know what it is either? Well, you know how we whip out our camera phones and start tweeting, facebooking and instagramming our way through events and everyday life? An unplugged wedding is one where the bridal couple asks the guests to put all their devices away and to refrain from documenting their special day on social media.
Let me be honest, I have absolutely no problem with pictures of myself appearing anywhere on social media, but I have been thinking that since our wedding is our special day, I would like our guests to be completely present in the moment, and to share all of the special looks, smiles, laughter, kisses and tears with us. I don’t really think I want to be confronted with a sea of smartphones as I make my way down the isle or as we are praying with our minister, and then having the photos appear online before we even get to see them. It would mean that we can share the photos that we want to share with the world at a time of our choosing. I don’t mind too much about the reception, but the ceremony really is a private, intimate affair. So let friends and family relax and let the person whose job it is to take photos, well, take photos.
I recently came across these Top 5 Reasons To Have An “Unplugged Ceremony”
1. Pro photographers’ pics are compromised by competing camera flashes and the domino effect of shooters trying to shoot around shooters.
2. Not being able to identify guests in the pro shots because their faces are obscured by phones and cameras.
3. The audible distraction of whirl, click, snap crackle pop as guests power up and down and occasionally push “ringtone” instead of “mute.”
4. Most agree that only well-honed professionals can experience what they are shooting fully through a lens. The rest of us detach ourselves from the present as we try to chronicle the past for use in the future.
5. This is a once in a life time event and you have not been invited as paparazzi. You have been invited to SHARE the ceremony with the COUPLE, not the world wide web.
Here are a couple of ways we could politely ask our guests to honour our unplugged request.
On the other hand, photos taken by friends and family add a different perspective to those of the professional photographer. They might get that special reaction on a guest’s face that the photographer missed. Or a tear shed by the mother of the bride…
I don’t know. Is this too harsh a request and am I overthinking it, or is it a valid thing to ask of our guests? Let me know what you think?